Would marrying only for love be difficult ?
Hello, I am a woman in her late 20s and am slowly thinking about getting married. However my parents place a lot of value on the other person’s wealth and family status. Including his occupation. I fully understand that parents with girls are going to have such expectations.
But, we don’t even own a home, so I do not understand why they are expecting such . There are people around us that get married well, still , is the man’s financial status and family background really that important? Is marriage something that I cannot achieve with only love alone ?
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a while now, but I have never seriously spoken with my parents about the relationship. The reason being, aside from knowing that parents’ nagging is only going to get worse, I know that my parents are not going to be satisfied with the conditions, so I am hesitating in fear that they may oppose it.
My boyfriend is a civil servant and comes from a divorcee family. His family is not that well-off ,so we are going to have to take loans together. So I am really scared that my parents will not like this and hinder the marriage.
Is there anyone that was in a similar scenario ? Were you able to get through it and get permission ? I do not know when I can finally tell my parents about him.
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[+43] [-0]
What is your own requirement? Is the condition of a wife desired by all , a person that has a lot of money, good occupation, cute and good family history?
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Yes, it is difficult. When you have lived, you’d realise how love isn’t everything.
Korean vocabulary
- 20대 후반 : late 20s
- 슬슬 : stealthily,imperceptibly, softly,softly, gently
- 시점 : point in time
- 상대방 : the other party, the other person
- 재력 : wealth
- 가정사 : family affairs/history/support
- 직업 : occupation, job
- 중시하다 : value, appreciate
- 시집가다 : to get married
- 종종 : occasionally
- 어른들 : adults
- 이루어지다 : be achieved, be accomplished, be realized,be done, be formed
- 간섭 : interference, meddling
- 혹여나 : but, by any chance
- 서두르다 : hurry, rush
- 공무원 : civil servant
- 이혼가정 : divorced families
- 대출을 끼다 : take out loan
- 겁나다 : be afraid, be scared
- 헤쳐나가다 : to get through something
- 빵빵하다 :cute
- 탐내다 : desire, covet
Yall I am also learning Korean, so bear with me regarding the translations. I am translating as I understand and not literally.
References
Naver Korean English Dictionary
* Not 100% sure of this sentence’s translation.
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There is this saying “birds of the same feather…” so If you are also not well-off, you are less likely to meet someone rich.