February 5, 2023

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Would marrying only for love be difficult ?

Hello, I am a woman in her late 20s and am slowly thinking about getting married. However my parents place a lot of value on the other person’s wealth and family status. Including his occupation. I fully understand that parents with girls are going to have such expectations.

But, we don’t even own a home, so I do not understand why they are expecting such . There are people around us that get married well, still , is the man’s financial status and family background really that important? Is marriage something that I cannot achieve with only love alone ?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a while now, but I have never seriously spoken with my parents about the relationship. The reason being, aside from knowing that parents’ nagging is only going to get worse, I know that my parents are not going to be satisfied with the conditions, so I am hesitating in fear that they may oppose it.

My boyfriend is a civil servant and comes from a divorcee family. His family is not that well-off ,so  we are going to have to take loans together. So I am really scared that my parents will not like this and hinder the marriage.

Is there anyone that was in a similar scenario ? Were you able to get  through it and get permission ? I do not know when I can finally tell my parents about him.

 

 

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Comments

  • [+45] [-0]

    There is this saying “birds of the same feather…” so If you are also not well-off, you are less likely to meet someone rich.

  • [+43] [-0]

    What is your own requirement? Is the condition of a wife desired by all , a person that has a lot of money, good occupation, cute and good family history?

  • [+0] [-0]

    Yes, it is difficult. When you have lived, you’d realise how love isn’t everything.

Korean vocabulary

  • 20대 후반 : late 20s
  • 슬슬 : stealthily,imperceptibly, softly,softly, gently
  • 시점 : point in time
  • 상대방 : the other party, the other person
  • 재력 : wealth
  • 가정사 : family affairs/history/support
  • 직업 : occupation, job
  • 중시하다 : value, appreciate
  • 시집가다 : to get married
  • 종종 : occasionally
  • 어른들  : adults
  • 이루어지다 : be achieved, be accomplished, be realized,be done, be formed
  • 간섭 : interference, meddling
  • 혹여나 : but, by any chance
  • 서두르다 : hurry, rush
  • 공무원 : civil servant
  • 이혼가정 : divorced families
  • 대출을 끼다 : take out loan
  • 겁나다 : be afraid, be scared
  • 헤쳐나가다 : to get through something
  • 빵빵하다 :cute
  • 탐내다 : desire, covet

Yall I am also learning Korean, so bear with me regarding the translations. I am translating as I understand and not literally.  

 

References

Naver Korean English Dictionary

Nate Pann

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