What are your thoughts about taking a new born to a bar
What are your thoughts about taking a new born to a bar ?
I am a child-free woman in my 30s who lives with her husband while raising a dog in a new city.
There are a lot of babies because of the nature of the neighbourhood . If you look around, you see a baby here and another baby over there. Not too long ago, while I and my husband were on a visit to a pub to have a drink, we saw a very puzzling scenario.
A newborn at one table, probably 3 years old ? A a child of that age range was brought in and at the table in front were seated 3 elderly men ( ajussi ).
Do people nowadays bring their babies along to a bar ?
Aren’t there other places to have a drink in the evening ?
While having that thought, the 3 men seated at the table ahead got louder , causing the baby, who was initially sleeping, to wake up.
I was so surprised when they called a staff to ask them, if it was okay to be that loud when a child is present.
Is it because I am child free that I fail to understand this ?
Although they were able to resolve the issue by moving the table with the baby, I sometimes lurk around the mom cafes since it is the fastest way to get the neighborhood gossip.
As there was no news of abuse of power or no person acting like they lack common sense in the mom cafe, I felt relieved. I was however again surprised, after seeing a report stating that pubs are no kids zones.
Weren’t pubs obviously a kid-free zone ?
I am at loss of words seeing the comments below saying that of course it is wrong to bring a child to a pub but it would be good to make the kid free zone announcement.
Is it even right to bring a child to a bar ?
(It isn’t easy to leave the neighborhood * and there aren’t many Izakaya restaurants around )
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신도시, new town, new city
동네, neighborhood, village
특성상,characteristic , nature,
눈을 돌리다, to look away,
얼마전에, lately, not long ago, a short time ago
호프집, draft-beer bar, pub
한잔하다 ,have a drink, drink lightly
갓난쟁이, newborn, newborn baby
여차저차, this and that
맘카페, mom cafe
눈팅,just looking, browsing, to lurk
돌다보다, look back on, reflect on
갑질하다 ,to overuse one’s power, go on a power trip, abuse of power
상식 밖의, against common sense, no common sense
노키즈존 ,Kid-free zones
거절 당하다, to get rejected
공지, announcement, notice
꽉, firmly, strongly, tight,fully, compactly
막히다,be blocked, be closed, be clogged,be fenced, be enclosed, get tongue-tied, be at a loss
외부로 , outside, being external, exterior
이자카야, Izakaya ( a type of informal Japanese bar that serves alcoholic drinks and snacks)
음식점, restaurant, diner
치킨집. fried chicken restaurant
공원 벤치, park bench
유세, power, influence
유세를 부리다, to exert power/influence over, to ride over
각박하게, heartless, cruel
굴 필요가 있다, a need to be hard/cruel/shrewd/unfriendly
정신병자, lunatic, an insane person, a mental patient
먹이다, make someone eat, feed
아이 엄마, a mother with an infant
달래다, to comfort, pacify, calm down; soothe
얌전해지다, to get calmer, to turn docile
인정이 없다, be heartless
속상하다, to be sad, to feel upset
맡길 곳, a place to hand something over to / to entrust something over to
컴플레인, to complain
컴플레인을 걷다, to complain ,to make a complaint
진상, truth, reality
계층, class, group
속하다, to belong to
환장을 하다, go mad, to be obsessed with
Looking at the comments, I think I now understand why women do not want to have children. Although it is absurd to bring a child to a pub or bar even though it is quiet, is it right to say they should go to a diner or fried chicken restaurant or sit at the park bench to enjoy a glass of beer ? Yall keep saying it isn’t good for the babies emotions, but be honest, the fact that you don’t want to see that is more important than the babies emotions to you! It is true, that those people, who go on a power trip because having children means the world to them, are lunatics but our society too needs to be less cruel towards children.
People don’t bring in starving children into their home and feed them anymore, like in the past. This is why I think it is this way and try to be understanding. Even I get annoyed at a child crying when I am exhausted, still after trying to comfort the baby together with the mother, everyone will be grateful and say thank you. The child also becomes more calm. I feel sad because it seems like we have become more heartless.
I am a mother but there are times, not always, when I want to drink some alcohol under such ambiance. So I would ONE TIME understand, since we are a couple without someone to entrust our child to. However making a complaint that it is too loud in a bar is rude*. The mother is the only one making unreasonable demands*. Rude customers exist in all classes/groups.
That is crazy. Where are you taking a baby to? How much alcohol was consumed to act that mad ?
Yall I am also learning Korean, so bear with me regarding the translations. I am translating as I understand and not literally.
Naver Korean English Dictionary
* Not 100% sure of this sentence’s translation.